It is with a heavy heart that I’m posting this about my daughter Ani who is a student at Santa Fe College in Gainesville, Florida.
While hanging out with friends whom she knew, she was raped over the weekend. The roommate of a co-worker offered her a ride and committed this cowardly act on her.
When I first found out about it, I went numb and didn’t’ quite know what to do. Then the usual emotions of rage, anger and sadistic thoughts of chopping one’s member off and feeding it to him through a straw came to mind.
For a brief moment I thought Ani would be the covered in shame and hide in a shell. But, anyone who knows Ani knows she is a very outspoken person. Not only did she press charges against the rapist, but she posted it on Facebook, included a picture of him and brought him to swift justice! This monster is now sitting behind bars because I’m guessing he was counting on her being so ashamed that she’d keep it quiet.
Often times these cowardly predators count on their victims hiding in shame. Ani, instead was more concern about other girls who may need the strength to come forward too. I’m very proud of Ani for facing her fear and coming out about what happened to her.
Please ladies (and guys), if someone violates you, the best healing is to talk about it with others. Come forward and bring the villain to justice. Shame can only exist in isolation. The moment you share an awful experience with another, healing begins. Chances are great that you are not alone in your suffering.
A friend of Ani’s has created a support page for her if you would like to help her in this healing process. Anais Rape Treatment Fund
I dedicated my 5K run to my beautiful, caring, funning, jovial, intelligent, creative and loving daughter Anais. I decided to run in a place that I know to be full of beauty like her. She loves butterflies, so I thought what a good place to start my run at the Butterfly Garden on West Orange Trail.
My run times are slow, as I stopped quite a bit to take pictures of beauty to remind myself that even when life gets ugly, there is beauty if you look for it. To find some place I can begin to process all the emotions of such an experience.
finding beauty during an ugly time #2
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The route I chose was the perfect place to get healing. Lots of beautiful flowers, pond, birds, trees, and a soft covered trail to ease my sore body. I ran a really fast loop that I dedicated to Ani to symbolize a speedy healing for all impacted. I was hoping that my 25 remaining 5K would be about something other than this, but we can’t control what life throws at us sometimes. https://www.strava.com/activities/602281279/embed/7dd4d959b8d569d108547b05bc7da82db3df0ead“>Ani’s rape awareness 5K #340 (25 remaining)